Distractions, vices, and silent killers

Peace Soulstars,

Often times we ignore our issues, suppress them and try to cope by distracting ourselves with vices which can be anything from tv, social media, food, sex ,drugs; the list goes on. This does more harm than good. We tend to realize this after damage has already been done like when we have several failed relationships, fall victim to drug addiction or develop a physical disorder.  Yes, psychological disorders can be converted to physical disorders when you don’t address unresolved issues.  There does come a time when we have to face our issues by duking it out with our fears and anxieties. If we don’t, we continue to perpetuate the cycle and eventually end up stuck in the same place where we started. Sometimes we don’t even realize this because we are that caught up in the distractions.

What do you think about late at night while everyone else is sleeping?  What are those thoughts in your mind which run in circles keeping you up all to return every single night?  Those are the things that you need to address because at some point you will have to face them whether you want to or not.  You can continue to distract yourself but you will never really be free until you just let go.  Depending on the problem you may need to seek professional help.  Does it mean you are crazy? Nope.  It just means you need to seek perspective.  You may need a little push through guidance of someone who can help you remove the veil.  The veil being those things which you “hide” behind to cover up what is inside.  Is this going to be easy? Nope.  Well, sometimes it may be easier than you think but it really depends on what the issues are and how long you’ve been holding onto them.

You will be doing yourself a disservice if you continue to use the veil and add on distraction after distraction after distraction.   You’ll know you need guidance from a professional when your problems affect your functioning.  For example, you cannot complete your tasks at work or at home like you usually could before this problem or if a child, they have recurring conflict with classmates/teachers and their grades fall.  Some other signs for adults and young adults include rapid weight loss or gain, appetite changes (increase or decrease), inability to experience pleasure or joy (anhedonia), and of course a huge sign is thoughts of harming yourself (suicidal ideation) or thoughts of harming others (homicidal ideation).  These are a few and be mindful that they are very subjective.

You must consider the role of all factors that affect your wellbeing.  That is why it is important to have a biopsychosocial assessment done by a professional because they know what areas to look into.  You may not even realize the extent to which biological, psychological, and environmental factors are affecting you.  In other cases,  you may not even need professional help.  You may just need to ask yourself “What do I want and how do I get it?”  Then, you take the necessary steps to do what you need to do.  Make sure that what you want is reasonable.   Depending on the circumstances what you want may just not be obtainable or  try this perspective: What you want may not be what you need.  I mean if it is a man or woman you “want” but they are married, involved or just not interested but you want to work on getting them anyway you may want to reconsider seeking professional help.  Just saying…

Just like we need to see a doctor or naturopath to keep track of our physical health we need to seek professional help for mental health.  They are all interconnected.  If you have a mental illness it can affect you physically and vice versa.  On average, when you have a tooth ache don’t you at some point go to the dentist to have them check it out?  If you have pain anywhere on or inside your body that won’t go away don’t you make an appointment to see your primary care physician?  It should be the same if you find yourself having emotional issues which can bring on anxiety, depression and other ailments.

As stated previously, some physical disorders can trigger psychological disorders.  There are cases where physicians treating  patients with chronic physical illnesses can and do overlook psychological disorders such as depression.  Most physicians are more concerned with the physical disorder because that’s the reason for the visit.  Many do not ask about what is going on with you mentally or emotionally.  Untreated mental illness can affect you differently than physical illness but both have a tremendous affect on your well being.  Simply put you end up treating the symptoms and not the problems.  Either way, if you keep sweeping the issues under the rug will come to surface anyway because all you’re doing is letting issues build up and build up.  You will be left with physical and/or emotional issues in the long haul.  You may shrug your shoulders and say “Well, nothing is happening yet so I’m good.”   Not necessarily.  Ever heard of the silent killer diseases?  They aren’t called “silent killers” for nothing.

Ready to seek help from a mental health professional but don’t know where to begin?  Make an appointment to see your pcp and ask them to refer you to a mental health professional or check with your insurance company.  You have to check with your insurance company anyway to be sure that your services will be covered.  Hope this was helpful!

Love and Light,





Author: Angelica

Angelica is my name. I'm a licensed graduate social worker from the DMV who has love for everything mind, body, soul related. A devoted wife and mother whose interests include music, art, yoga, books, exercise, meditation, and cooking. Amanisoul is a synthesis of the name "Amani" which means harmony and peace in swahili and the word "soul" which means essence or spiritual self. Discovering one's inner peace involves being healthy mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. I make it my mission to spread the word on how to achieve balance in all of these areas.

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