“Sometimes in order to get to the light we must find our way through the dark.” ~ Amanisoul
I know we are bombarded with positivity all of the time to the point where it can get overwhelming. There’s pressure to be something that we cannot be all of the time. Happiness is great but there are days when we just don’t feel happy even in gratitude. Everyone is going through something and it’s hard to face that something when you have everyone telling you “BE happy!” and “BE positive!” You end up pretending to be okay when you’re really not. Sometimes you have to take the mask off or just throw it away, burn it; whatever you need to do. Just be in the moment even if that means you need to take a day to be in your feelings so to speak. We are not a perfect people. We are much more complex than we think. Yes, we want more positivity but with positive there is also negative. Balance is key. How would we know what “positive” is if we did not experience it’s arch nemesis? We must have one with the other in order to understand
life ourselves. In order to understand life’s ups and downs we must begin with self. It’s as simple as that.
Ignoring negative thoughts and feelings does nothing for your emotional and spiritual growth. You certainly don’t learn how to deal with adversity or how to protect yourself from negative energy. When you avoid your “demons”, problems, etc. you end up with repressed issues that keep you stagnant in your relationships, careers, and life in general. That’s why there are a bunch of people running around unhappy, lost and lashing out at people that have done nothing to them. They turn to drugs, alcohol, food and other vices to cope. They breed negative energy because they have not learned how to cope with it in a way that serves them. There’s no balance. They hold onto anger, resentment, and hate while letting it control them. This leads to conflict, chaos, and in many cases violence. Most of us really don’t want this. It isn’t a part of our nature to constantly breed negativity and chaos. Hurt people hurt people. That’s why it’s imperative to dig deeper to get to the root of your problems rather then continue to keep them hidden. Sometimes in order to get to the light we need to find our way through the dark.
The ultimate goal for most of us is to obtain inner peace which is necessary to generate peace around us. When negative thoughts and feelings arise, acknowledge them, feel them, and let nature take its course. Just try not to let them control you. If this is difficult to do you know you need to make a change because the first step is acknowledging that you don’t have control. The next step is deciding what to do about it. Once you get to know your negative side you will be able to find positive ways to manage it. This way, you take control of how you think, feel, and act not let your emotions take control of you. When you become the master of yourself you not only understand yourself better but you also understand others more.
Until next time, just take mental notes of how you respond emotionally, psychologically, physically, behaviorally, and socially. Sounds like a lot but it is do-able. Keep in mind that you are a work in progress and continue to seek ways to enjoy life. A new day is a new beginning. Next week we’ll explore what to do after you’ve identified the negative thoughts and feelings.
Love and Light,