Self Care Fridays: 12 Steps to Self Care

Peace Soulstars,

I hope everyone had a great week! Despite perceived obstacles always remember that you have a choice to manifest your reality and whatever that reality is it’s a work in progress.  Every day is a chance to move closer to that reality.  Start with self care.

If you don’t take care of yourself, you are doing not only yourself but others around you a disservice.  These steps are only a guide.  Use them at your own discretion and tweek where necessary.  It’s for inspiration purposes.

If you follow me on Instagram, you’ll see that I’ve been participating in a twelve day yoga challenge.  This was one of the best decisions I’ve made all year!  It has motivated me to keep that appointment with myself everyday.

I’m not only improving my total wellbeing (yoga is perfect for mind, body,soul alignment) but the wellbeing of my family as well.  When I’m out of alignment, they have to deal with it.  I prefer being aligned not only for me but for them. If we don’t take responsibility for ourselves, nothing will improve.  It’s in our own hands.

What we do and how we react not only affects us but those we come into contact with; especially those we care about the most.  If everyone took the time to practice more self care the world would be a much better place but we cannot control what everyone else does.  We can only control what we do.

Love and light,

 

 

Spiritual Thursdays: Menstruation…A blessing not a curse

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Peace Soulstars,

Hmmm, menstruation…The “dreaded” topic of discussion by many…Embraced by so few yet a process that’s so powerful and even majestic but only some have come to actually realize it’s more of a blessing than a “curse”.  I actually don’t see it as a “curse” at all.  I have no proof of such for one but I admit that I once believed that when Eve took a bite out of that apple it marked our doom as women.  Eventually, I started to question some of my old habits and beliefs.  As a woman, feminism is an intricate part of my being and menstruation plays a major role in femininity.  Why the shame?

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How could something so sacred that makes us creators of life be deemed part of a curse?  God forbid more women actually start thinking for themselves and seek truth on their own which can lead to gradual de-stigmatization of feminism. How about replacing that sense of shame with empowerment, self love, perhaps even alchemy? That level of transformation would be a true game changer.  In all honesty, it can be extremely painful and damn near debilitating for some. Thankfully, I’m not in that category but I have my days when the pain is heavier than usual so I make self care mandatory.

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Your menses is for slowing down, release, and introspection.  If you don’t meditate often, make a point to do something relaxing during this time.  Pampering yourself does wonders.  Remember meditation is not limited to sitting in lotus pose.  I cannot stress enough how imperative rituals are at this time.  Our menstrual cycles not only represent a time to rest but also time to reconnect to spirit.  Rituals, meditation, introspection, and even journaling can aid in releasing anything that does not serve you especially those suppressed emotions.  The relaxation and pampering serves to transmute any hurt, anger or other negative energy that is released.

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Women have a deep rooted connection to nature making us exceptional as physical and spiritual beings.  Since the beginning of time women have reverenced nature to connect with spirit, higher self, God or some higher power depending on the culture.  Universally speaking, menstruation is where femininity and spirituality meet.  As Nuit Moore so eloquently stated “menstruation is sacred beautiful lunar ancient holy feminine power”.

Love and Light,

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Self-Care Fridays: Set your rhythm with morning rituals…

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Peace Soulstars,

Yesterday, I mentioned moon rituals but those aren’t the only rituals that I do.  I have quite a few which change from time to time but they keep me grounded.  I’m not sure about you but my body loves routine and I can go so far as to say that it needs routine.  It’s also ideal for a routine to stimulate each of your senses.  It’s important to take the time to jumpstart your senses before using them.  If not, your body may not function properly and your  body can be thrown off balance.  Alignment is key to overall health.

I am a music person so I like to use analogies that reference music.  So, I like to refer to “getting in alignment” as “setting the rhythm”.  For the past few years I’ve tried different ways to “set the rhythm” for the day upon opening my eyes.  The “rhythm” can be different each day but as long as it’s in tune with your spirit that’s all that matters.  Here are some of my morning rituals which  stimulate my five senses.

  1. SOUND:  I wake up to music or play it in the morning while getting ready.  If I have time, I listen to a motivational podcast or other audio which is in tune with my rhythm.  I have also set my alarm to play a song with soothing vibes and/or a positive message.  Great way to wake up.  Typically, I don’t need an alarm but when I do I prefer music as opposed to some annoying, loud basic alarm.
  2. TOUCH:   To prep my physical body, I stretch for a few minutes to warm up my muscles and wake up my body before getting up and moving.  Nothing major.  It can be as simple as taking a few deep breaths and stretching your neck, shoulders, back, arms, and legs.  It helps you to notice any physical sensations (comfortable and uncomfortable) and increase body awareness.
  3. TASTE: Hydration is key.   Before or after showering and brushing my teeth, I drink a tall glass of water with a squeeze of lemon or have a cup of matcha green tea.  Sometimes I steam water and add lemon.  Either way I have something to stimulate my internal organs at some point in the morning before eating anything.  Why?  I just spent from six, seven, eight or more hours without eating or drinking anything.  The body needs fuel.  Your body needs to replenish and regenerate itself.  Water helps to give it that push.
  4. SMELL:  There are many ways to do this but here are some of my favorite ways to incorporate sense of smell to my morning ritual.  I burn incense or inhale some of my favorite essential oils like tea tree, peppermint, or lemongrass.  Sometimes I also use lavender oil because it’s calming.  I also apply topically by mixing one to two drops of an essential oil into about 2 teaspoons of sweet almond oil.  Then I massage my neck and shoulders (sometimes my back).  There are different essential oils that can be used for different parts of your body i.e. pressure points to relieve certain ailments or for prevention purposes.  I also use a diffuser that uses a tea light to generate heat which disperses the fragrance in the air.  You can also use your favorite all natural scented body wash or salt scrub if you prefer.
  5. SIGHT:  Lastly, I meditate for at least 10 minutes using a lit candle or a himalayan salt lamp as a focal point while I take deep breaths.  Eventually, I may close my eyes while envisioning the light from either source as my inner light.  Both are reminiscent of that ball of light within myself where inner peace lies.  The light can also represent my higher being and the fact that my higher being is always within to keep me centered.  Crystal stones have healing energy, are beautiful to look at and embody the light energy that helps me maintain a connection to nature i.e. vibrating higher.  Crystals can also be used during meditation.

These are just some of the practices that have worked like a charm to help me set my rhythm for the day.   Anytime I get thrown off I remind myself of that inner light.  This may seem like a lot for some.  Do what you can and follow your intuition.  We really need to learn how to connect to our higher selves more.  It doesn’t take an hour or even several minutes.  If you only have five minutes it’s better than nothing.  If you don’t have five minutes, that’s a whole other problem to address.  What do you do to set your rhythm for the day?  Do you practice morning rituals?

Love and Light,

9k=-1

 

Spiritual Thursdays: You don’t have a soul, you are a soul

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Peace Soulstars,

On Thursdays,  we’ll be focusing on Spirituality.  Spirituality plays a huge part in who I am and everything that I do.  It’s the motivation behind this blog and what has led me to become a numerology believing, crystal toting, heavily praying, reading, and meditating spiritual warrior.   We’re each a masterpiece but also a work in progress because we’re always learning.  Spiritual journeys are unique to the individual.  My experiences have sent me on a roller coaster of emotions from being speechless to  tears at times.  This is a topic that some can’t handle because of a lack of understanding.  I’ll never try to force anyone to believe anything they don’t want to believe.  That’s not what I’m about.  I’m  about helping people to vibrate higher by walking the walk.

Spirituality is subjective.  My experience is exclusive to me and me alone. There may be others who can relate and have similar experiences but no two are the same.  Some cannot relate at all and will probably call me weird or crazy.  That’s fine but respect my “house” aka this blog, the readers, this space…me.  This is a no judgment zone.  If only we could respect our differences more and see them as opportunities to learn more about each other instead of contributing to division we could change the world.  Scratch that…We ARE changing the world little by little the more we raise awareness and consciousness by practicing what we preach.

Speaking of practicing what we preach,  it’s imperative when you’re in the “helping” field i.e. social worker, therapist, teacher etc.  Honestly, I think it’s imperative no matter what your career field.   As a counselor,  I used to heavily emphasize that it should be priority that we continue to educate ourselves not only on therapeutic techniques but on self; self-awareness that is.  When our self awareness is weak,  we fail to realize that we cannot be of service to anyone especially not in the helping capacity.  That’s what led me to exploring a deeper sense of my mind, body, connection and share it with you.

I’m no expert.  I’m learning just like you.   I’m always in learning mode.  I know more now than I did years ago but the awakening experience is so much more complex than some think. This is a space for questions, learning, checking each other (and ourselves) respectfully and enjoying the ride. It’s a journey consisting of many twists and turns.  You fall and it may take you a while but you get back up.  You sometimes think you’re losing your mind but if you just keep going and remain vigilant you’ll reach a point of calm after the storm.

I look forward to sharing my spiritual journey with you and I hope that some of you are inspired to share your story as well.  I’ll leave you with this.  There’s a reason we question certain things, why we start to change the way we eat and live as a whole.  Your soul is in the process of shedding all of the layers that have kept it from shining.  You are light.   You are so much more than your physical body; far beyond what this material world could ever provide.

Love and Light,

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Epsom Salt Detox Baths!

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Peace Soulstars,

As promised, I wanted to come in and talk about the amazingness of epsom salts!  I personally have had success taking baths with epsom salts on a weekly basis and as needed.  Typically, it’s suggested that you soak in a bath of epsom salts to soothe aches and pains which is generally very effective.  There are many reasons to take epsom salt baths including for detoxing, to relieve cold/flu symptoms, and healing the body in general.   There are claims that they’re good for reducing and eliminating cellulite and losing weight which makes sense because one of the main causes of cellulite is toxins.  So, the purpose of the detox bath is to eliminate toxins and fluid retention which can lead to reduction in cellulite and help you lose weight.  I believe that it has reduced my cellulite in the thigh area but I haven’t taken any before/after pictures.  I’m just going by my naked eye noticing what seems like an improvement in my muscle tone.   You also have to consider your lifestyle (diet, exercise etc.).   Detox baths alone will not help you lose weight and reduce cellulite if you feed your body clean foods.

You can do your research but be mindful that there is misinformation floating around especially on the internet regarding the effectiveness of epsom salts.  People can be skeptical.  If you have any concerns you can check with your doctor.   The generally healthy individual should not have any adverse reactions to epsom salts unless you have allergies or other health conditions which cause sensitivity to magnesium sulfate.  They’re made up of magnesium, sulfur and oxygen.   If you’re an individual that is on medication for whatever reason it would be wise to consult with your doctor first as well.    Just know that everything affects everyone differently.  If you have kids, be sure to reduce the amounts of the ingredients for a general recipe which tends to cater to adults.  Kids do not require the same amounts of certain ingredients as adults for obvious reasons.  Effectiveness depends on each individual including your weight and other factors but generally speaking just know as with anything else less is more.  You can always adjust amounts later.

I thought it would be helpful to share a recipe that I’ve tried for myself and my family which has been successful.  You can tweak this recipe as needed depending on the use.  The following recipe is for a detox bath I used for my daughter when she had a fever and cold/flu symptoms.  She had a temperature of 102 degrees and we needed to get it down without the use of medicine (tylenol).   If treating a fever then add the ingredients to a cool bath and use a wash cloth or bath sponge to gently massage the skin.  The cool water helps in reducing the body temperature.   I emphasize COOL because cold water is too much of a shock to the system when one has a fever.  If using this recipe for kids depending on the age cut each amount in half or more depending on the age.

General detox bath recipe (adults):

1 cup Epsom Salt

1 cup baking soda

1 tablespoon ground ginger

4 drops of lavender essential oil

*Note*

Epsom salts are natural but still check with your child’s pediatrician if they are under the age of 10.  I would suggest omitting epsom salts for baby.  A baby’s skin and  little systems can be sensitive to certain ingredients so ALWAYS check with a pediatrician and use your instincts.  If you’re unsure, then don’t use it.  Better safe than sorry.

Baby under two:  baking soda- 1/4 cup, lavender oil- 2 drops

Two to seven years:  baking soda- 1/2 cup, lavender oil – 2 drops

Eight to Ten years:  baking soda- 1/2 cup, lavender oil- 3 drops

Ten years to adult:  baking soda 1 cup, lavender oil- 4 drops

I used this bath for my daughter who was either 9 or 10 at the time.  She took the bath at nighttime.  This recipe brought her temperature down from 102 to 100 then before the night was over she ended up back at 98 degrees.   She also had relief from congestion.

Another way that I have used epsom salt baths was to relieve pain and discomfort.  The detoxing process is a form of healing for sore muscles, aches and pains but also benefits some skin conditions such as eczema and acne.  So, the great thing about these baths is there are multiple benefits because either way it heals.   Whenever I feel the need to give myself some much needed relaxation (usually once or twice a week) and don’t want to spend money on an expensive spa, I opt for my epsom salt baths. Recently,  I’ve used this bath (as described above) to soothe back pain, to reduce inflammation from my epidermoid cyst, and post surgery to heal the surgical wound.  I simply omit the ginger.  Although, it wouldn’t hurt.

Sometimes I just use epsom salts and lavender oil to keep it simple.  Also, if taken at night the lavender oil helps with inducing sleep.  So, you may not have aches and pains but just may be tense from a stressful day or week.  Try taking a bath with epsom salts and lavender essential oil.  Put some soft music on, light candles and zone out but try not to fall asleep because that may not end well.  lol… If you want to get fancy, you can add herbs, flowers and essential oils to your liking.  Just enjoy playing around with different recipes, find what works for you, and relax.  Detox baths can be done once or twice a week not every day.  It’s a process and needs time to do it’s thing so to speak.

So,  maybe begin or end your week with a detox bath.  If treating a condition such as a fever or aches and pains you may want to use the baths more often until symptoms go away but space out the time in between by a few hours depending on the urgency.   Just don’t over do it because healing takes time.  Natural remedies can work fast but sometimes they take time.  Always remember with natural remedies they can only do so much.  If there are other symptoms present or the natural remedy is just not cutting it call a doctor because you may have a more serious condition.

Wooo, this was long!  I was long overdue for a few post anyway so this makes up for lost time! lol!  Enjoy the rest of your day!  Next post I’ll be talking about sea salt baths which have a whole other purpose 😉

Love and Light,

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My daughter talks natural hair, diversity, and self love

Hey loves! I just posted a new video on my youtube channel where I spoke with my 10 year old daughter who shared her thoughts about embracing her natural hair amidst the lack of diversity at her school.  She shares her experience learning to love herself regardless of what others think and despite her differences.  Check out the special message she adds at the end for others especially to other young girls like herself who may struggle with self esteem issues.  Hope you check it out, like, subscribe, and share to spread the positive message!